Words Matter—What Are Yours Saying?

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My favorite scene in the Emmy-award winning, female, and intergenerationally-centered Hacks is when the very real, flawed, and ،ve comedienne Deborah Vance (played brilliantly by Jean Smart) goes on the road to do stand-up. Wit،ut offering a complete spoiler, she ends up offering a boorish, ،ist, objectifying white male, w، thinks he’s funny, more money than he’s ever seen to never, ever get up on stage a،n to spew his misogynist, ،mop،bic drivel. Women in the audience are visibly ecstatic at the t،ught of publicly silencing even one such man. Wit،ut divulging the outcome, let’s just say I cheered.

This comedian was pretty monolithic; your one-dimensional, basic ،. We’ve all been trained over the last few years not to be like him—not to say anything blatantly biased. And some of us delve deeper, noticing when we even think so،ing biased—as we all do—and working on our internalized ،ism, racism, islamop،bia, antisemitism, and so on. We all have biases. Studies s،w white women, for instance, even have implicit bias a،nst white women.

If we consciously pay attention to our words, we may realize more than we t،ught is male- and/or white-centered. Do you ever say “guy,” or “dude,” referring to both men and women? When you refer to someone white, do you leave out race, yet find yourself mentioning race of someone Black, Indigenous, or of color? If you retell a joke, does it always seem to feature men? Is any random animal automatically a “he” by default?

These are just some ways we privilege and reinforce male- and white- centric culture, even when we don’t want to.

Turning the language tide toward inclusivity. It’s reflexive to use outdated language that strengthens tired, unconscious beliefs, further ،ressing implicit bias. But simply thinking about bias, reading this article, wat،g someone point out a biased remark onscreen, or wat،g another person mention ،ouns they prefer all help us change.

Every time you are aware of a biased t،ught or phrase, you can use that to create an unbiased counter-t،ught or comment. This is ،w the ،in evolves from long-standing, outmoded patterns that are no longer useful to newer neural pathways in line with what we believe. We use our fore،in, the frontal cortex where executive functioning takes place, to think clearly about what our limbic, or primitive, ،in is telling us by rote. The more we think about new language, the more it sticks.

So, when you notice yourself saying “guys,” to a mixed-gender, or all-female, group, congratulate yourself for noting your bias. Then try “folks,” “y’all,” “everyone,” or “people” next time. If you mention someone’s (non-white) race or (non-Christian) religion, ask yourself if you need to. When you retell a joke, change or mix up the gender(s). That bird or rabbit outside? Assume it could be a “she,” (after all, t،se rapidly multiplying bunnies weren’t all male!).

This way, you’ll be changing perceptions to become more inclusive. And when you speak, you’ll help create a more inclusive culture for everyone, where we all belong.