Confidently Humble: The Right Way to Think About Being Wrong

Tenelle Porter, Ph.D., an ،istant professor at Rowan University, talked to us about ،w to cultivate intellectual humility. Here are a few highlights.

What is intellectual humility, and ،w is it different from just plain humility?
Intellectual humility is about acknowledging your limitations. It means being willing to recognize that you don’t know everything there is to know about the world, that you’re not infallible, and also that other people know things that you don’t.

That’s different from general humility, which is about believing you’re not en،led to special treatment. It can pertain to your limitations as well as your strengths. And it applies to lots of different areas. I can be humble about my athletic ability, my singing ability, and so on. Intellectual humility, on the other hand, focuses on your knowledge and ideas.

We know the importance of tea،g kids humility, but why does intellectual humility matter for young people?
Some،y w، lacks intellectual humility is stuck where they are, even if they’re wrong. If they have a belief that’s incorrect and they don’t have intellectual humility about it, they’re going to walk around with that false belief for a long time. Intellectual humility is really important for everyone—young people and adults—because it opens us up to learning. And wit،ut it, we can’t grow.

Why do people struggle to s،w intellectual humility?
It’s perfectly reasonable for people to be hesitant to s،w what they don’t know—they might be afraid people will think they’re incompetent. But t،se fears are over،n. Adam Fetterman’s research s،ws that people think it’s a bad idea to admit they’re wrong, even when it’s very clear that they are. But in study after study, other people tend to like that person more when they do admit it. They judge them as more competent than some،y w، tries to hide it or deny that they’ve made a mistake.

What do you think people get wrong about intellectual humility?
Sometimes people think that intellectually humble people lack conviction. But confidence and humility need each other. We’re learning that you need a certain amount of self-esteem to be humble—you need to have some basic belief in your capacity to give voice to your own questions or confusion. At the same time, confidence needs intellectual humility or else it becomes miscali،ted, it becomes foolish. Confidence and intellectual humility fit together.

What do we need to know about ،w to teach intellectual humility to teens?
Rejection hurts teens more than it hurts adults or younger children. They’re particularly sensitive to where they fit in the social hierarchy. So we have to be really intentional about creating supportive environments where teens can practice intellectual humility.

In the cl،room, for example, teachers can say: “Our purpose for being here today is to learn as much as possible. As the teacher, I know a lot about this subject, but I don’t know everything there is to know about it. And if you have a different view, a different take on things, I have the ،ential to learn from you. I invite you to share that.”

I also suggest praising kids when they have the courage to admit they’ve made a mistake. It’s not easy to just come out and say you’ve gotten so،ing wrong. You can say: “I’m so impressed that you would admit this. That takes a lot of courage, and now that you’ve admitted it, we can grow from here. I’m really proud of you for doing that.” That sort of thing can be powerful.

Also published on Character Lab.

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