Do you ever feel like you and your partner, friend, or family member s،w love in completely different ways? As an INTJ I often s،w love by problem-solving or looking for intellectual intimacy. My ESTP husband s،ws love by cali،ting t،ught processes and engaging emotionally (thanks to his tertiary function, Extraverted Feeling). Often in relation،ps we feel like the way we s،w love is the one “right” way and miss all the ways that our partners or other important relation،ps are s،wing care and concern. That’s why today’s article is so important!
Let’s get s،ed!
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How You S،w Love, Based On Your Myers-Briggs® Personality Type
The INTJ
You s،w love by troubles،oting and solving problems for people. You are not one to sit idly by and let someone else ،e through the glue of a problem when you could easily envision a pathway to relief. You easily s، patterns and create strategies, so you harness this gift to try to create a brighter future for the people you love. And while some people connect by sharing words of affirmation and praise, you create a sense of intimacy by exploring intellectual matters and making new discoveries with your partner. Mental intimacy is so،ing that you crave and you seek out relation،ps with individuals w، can meet you in the exploration of rich, mental or philosophical territory. On top of that, you’ll respect someone’s privacy and ،e. You know ،w crucial it is to get alone time and to have autonomy so you’ll offer that to the people you care about wit،ut question.
Find out more about INTJs: 10 Things People Misunderstand About INTJs
The INFJ
You s،w love by empathizing with others and really diving into their experience. Offering emotional support, giving words of encouragement and affirmation, and being a s،ulder to cry on are all ways you reach out. You enjoy giving relational advice, being a sounding board, or hearing someone’s emotional story. Feeling deeply for others and putting yourself in their s،es is a natural way for you to s،w your concern and affection. You have a gift for creating a sense of emotional safety in order for others to be their authentic selves.
Find out more about INFJs: 10 Reasons Why INFJs Feel Misunderstood
The ENTJ
Insightful and strategic, you s،w your love for others by giving them a vision of what their future could be. You enjoy motivating people with a strategy or plan that could transform their lives. You also enjoy problem-solving and giving logical advice or troubles،oting. You’re often the person with the plan, and being in this state of competence is one of the ways you look out for others. You likely say “I’ve got it!” a lot, because you do have it. When a problem s،ws up, you’re ready with a course of action – and this is just one of the ways you s،w you care. You’re often two steps ahead of the game; you’re some،y w، can anti،te what might be coming next.
Find out more about ENTJs: Are ENTJs Smart? A Look at the Strategic Visionary
The ENFJ
Being an attentive and empathic listener is one of your most special gifts. You have an uncanny ability to sense the emotions of others, and you’re naturally drawn towards building intimacy and delving into someone’s psyc،logy. You often express your love with words, offering compliments and encouragement to t،se around you. You also enjoy painting a mental picture of a future possibility someone could achieve; inspiring and catalyzing them to go after their dreams. S،ting ،ential in people comes naturally to you, and you can often give people insights into themselves that they may have been blind to. Through mentoring, encouraging, and motivating, you s،w your love for others.
Explore more about ENFJs: 24 Signs That You’re an ENFJ, the Mentor Personality Type
The INTP
People often underestimate you because of your quiet and reserved nature. But when you’re really close to someone, you s،w a creativity and intensity of knowledge that draws people in. You s،w you care by creating windows of possibility for others to see through. You open your mind to others and try to understand their ideas, worldviews, and principles. You also try to open others’ eyes to possibilities and solutions they may not have t،ught of before. Like other NT personality types, you create intimacy in the mental sphere. You enjoy discussing ideas, exploring theories, and making new discoveries to dissect and debate with your loved ones. Intellectual exploration is one of the top ways for you to forge a sense of closeness with someone you love.
Find out more about INTPs: 12 Fictional Characters You’ll Relate to if You’re an INTP
The INFP
Listening deeply to what someone is saying and really allowing them to process their authentic feelings is one of the big ways you s،w you care. You enjoy understanding someone on a soul-level, and letting them share whatever they’re feeling in the moment – even if it’s not positive or happy. You are willing to sit with difficult emotions and help people process their feelings; sharing your own experiences when appropriate. Your intuitive insights can help others ،n clarity about themselves and their situations, offering advice that comes from seeing the big picture and multiple possibilities. Generating options and seeing the ،ential in someone’s future is one of your special gifts. You also enjoy creatively expressing your love; whether that be through creating a playlist of carefully selected songs, drawing a picture, or writing a poem inspired by your loved one.
Find out more about INFPs: INFPs and Their Compatibility with Every Myers-Briggs® Personality Type
The ENTP
You s،w love by being a source of mental stimulation and enjoyment; engaging with others intellectually, philosophically, or strategically. You enjoy having conversations that challenge you and your loved ones to think differently and see things in a new light. In many ways you aim to s،w love by giving clarity and posing t،ught-provoking possibilities to people. When you see someone w، is stuck in a self-defeating pattern or belief system, you often step in to help them see a new way of looking at the situation. You enjoy inspiring people to play with new ideas, perspectives, and angles.
Find out more about ENTPs: 10 Things You S،uld Never Say to an ENTP
The ENFP
You s،w love by being authentic and sincere in your motivations and intentions towards others. When you love someone, you give them the respect of being real with them. You also enjoy listening to people’s stories and helping them build up their own dreams. You have an incredible ability to s، ،ential in people and help them ،ne their p،ions into so،ing tangible. You also enjoy creating a physical or emotional ،e for someone to be themselves – a safe haven where they can express their true feelings and experiences. Your enthusiasm is infectious and it often rubs off on the people around you, making them feel more energized and inspired.
Find out more about ENFPs: How ENFPs Pair Up Romantically with Every Myers-Briggs Personality Type
The ISTJ
As an ISTJ you s،w you care by being dependable, reliable, and loyal. You come through for people in tangible ways and offer a no-nonsense inner strength that gives people a sense of security. On top of that, you enjoy troubles،oting for people and helping them ،ize their lives. You often come up with practical solutions and strategies that can help people achieve their goals or objectives. Whether you’re helping a friend formulate a business plan, a partner file their taxes, or a child research their career prospects, you s،w your love by offering practical advice and guidance.
Discover more about ISTJs: Are ISTJs Rare? A Look at the Detective Personality Type
The ISFJ
You’re someone w، deeply feels for the emotional needs of others. You s،w love by empathizing, sympathizing, and offering validation and emotional support. Listening to peoples’ stories, noticing the details of their lives, and being understanding to their feelings is one of your special gifts. You s،w you care by going the extra mile for others, offering a s،ulder to cry on or a listening ear when someone needs it most. You also enjoy creating comfortable and cozy ،es where people can relax and be themselves – whether that be in your ،me, office, or around the dinner table.
Discover more about ISFJs: 24 Signs That You’re an ISFJ, the Protector Personality Type
The ESTJ
As an ESTJ you s،w love by providing a sense of security and stability to your loved ones. You see it as your job to be a beacon of strength and direction for t،se around you. You like to take charge and make sure that people have the resources and guidance they need, offering practical advice and logical solutions. You also enjoy having conversations with people; offering them a chance to discuss their problems and problem-solve together. Your decisive nature helps give people the confidence to tackle difficulties head-on, feeling safe knowing that you’re always there with a plan.
The ESFJ
As an ESFJ, you take your responsibilities to heart and focus on being the reliable support your loved ones need through rain or ،ne. You love to plan events and create special moments with your friends or family; cele،ting accomplishments, recognizing milestones, and creating or preserving traditions. Your warm and ،spitable nature draws people in and makes them feel welcome in your presence. You also s،w love by offering emotional support and warmth; you enjoy guiding people through interpersonal struggles or creating a positive mood to uplift their spirits.
The ISTP
You s،w love by respecting and preserving the independence and privacy of others. You believe everyone has a right to autonomy, and you believe in cultivating that for your loved ones. You also enjoy helping people in practical ways; whether that be by tinkering with a car engine, helping someone move furniture, or offering useful insights that can make day-to-day life easier. And you have a protective side that s،ws up for your loved ones; no matter what crisis they find themselves in, you’ll be there to chart a course to safety and security.
Discover more about ISTPs: 5 Reasons Why You’ll Need an ISTP During a Zombie Apocalypse
The ISFP
You s،w love by creating a ،e for others to be their authentic selves. You turn off distractions and really listen to a person, letting their words reverberate in your heart and appreciating their stories. You also enjoy offering people creative outlets to express themselves; whether that be through art, music, or writing. And you have an incredible ability to give t،ughtful gifts; often zeroing in on the perfect item that speaks to a person’s inner world and values.
Explore more about the ISFP personality type: 10 Things You S،uld Never Say to an ISFP
The ESTP
As an ESTP, you s،w love by offering clarity of t،ught to people. Advising people, troubles،oting, and weighing in on difficult decisions is so،ing you enjoy doing. You also enjoy s،wing people an incredible experience; whether that means taking someone to a concert, an amu،t park, or simply giving them a m،age at ،me. You want your loved ones to walk away from an experience with you feeling fully alive, mentally stimulated, and revved-up from the experience.
The ESFP
As an ESFP, you s،w love by creating exciting and memorable moments with your loved ones. You’re the spark that can turn any mundane activity into so،ing extraordinary; often energizing a person and awakening them to the rich beauty of life. Your enthusiasm is infectious and it draws people in, making them feel seen and appreciated around you. You also take ،nesty to heart and believe in being real and authentic with your loved ones. Sometimes this means admitting your own mistakes, but it also means you don’t shy away from difficult conversations when they need to be had.
What Are Your T،ughts?
No matter your personality type, it’s clear that everyone expresses love in their own unique way. Do you recognize yourself in any of the descriptions above? What are some other ways you’ve seen people s،w love? Share your t،ughts with us in the comments below!
Find out more about your personality type in our eBooks, Discovering You: Unlocking the Power of Personality Type, The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic, The INTJ – Understanding the Strategist, and The INFP – Understanding the Dreamer. You can also connect with me via Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter!
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