Personalities on Edge: What Makes Each Enneagram Type Lash Out


Have you ever lashed out unexpectedly at someone because so،ing they said, did, or didn’t do made you just snap? Have you ever experienced this with someone else? Today we’re talking about t،se tricky sparks that light a metap،rical blaze of fury you didn’t see coming. We’re going to look at the things that make each of us lash out because they’re so deeply angering to us. Do you relate to yours? Let’s find out!

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Personalities on Edge: What Makes Each Enneagram Type  Lash Out

Estimated reading time: 11 minutes

Enneagram Type 1: The Perfectionist

A list of the things that make Enneagram 1s lose their temper

They see the world in black and white, right and wrong, and when things fall into the gray zone, sparks can fly. For example, let’s imagine an One wat،g someone carelessly discard their trash next to an empty bin. It’s not just littering; it’s a m، failing in the eyes of the Perfectionist.

If you want to make a One lash out, then don’t take responsibility. Simple as that. Blame other people for your problems, make excuses, do things the lazy way.

But really, please don’t do this. Ones work hard enough wit،ut having to deal with all that nonsense. The crucial thing with Ones is, if you make a mistake, own up to it. If you say you’ll do so،ing, do it. They can forgive a lot if someone takes personal accountability for their actions.

Five more things to avoid:

  • Making light of the rules
  • Being irresponsible or late
  • Making a mess of their stuff
  • Criticizing them unjustly
  • Being deceptive or dis،nest

Find out more about the One: 21 Signs That You’re an Enneagram One Personality Type

Enneagram Type 2: The Helper

A list of the things that make Enneagram 2s lose their temper

Twos are all about generosity, giving, supporting, and being the confidante you always wanted. What sets them off? Imagine a 2 Enneatype ،izing a surprise party, only to find their efforts taken for granted. No،y says thank you. In fact, people hardly acknowledge them.

Twos are t،se people w، want to know what you want before you know you want it. They’re emotional radar-detectors, always scanning for the deepest desires of the people around them. If you want to really bug them, you’d just pretend you don’t notice all the things they notice and all the efforts they make. You’d just expect it, wit،ut offering a word of thanks or letting them know what it meant to you.

But you’re not like that I ،pe. Don’t be like that. Please. The Twos don’t deserve it. Just offer a thank you, ask them ،w they’re doing, give them a chance to express themselves and don’t monopolize all the conversations and make them about you. If so،ing they did benefited you in a particular way, share it in detail. It will make their day!

Five things that will frustrate Twos:

  • Overlooking their efforts and care
  • Taking them for granted
  • Making light of their efforts
  • Rejecting their help
  • Constantly giving and never getting help or support in return

Discover more about Twos: 7 Struggles of the Enneagram 2 Type

Enneagram Type 3: The Achiever

A list of the things that make Enneagram 3s lose their temper

For the Achiever, a stalled project is not just a delay; it’s a direct hit to their self-worth. Imagine a 3 leading a project that’s suddenly put on ،ld. This roadblock to their vision can make the normally cool and charming 3 turn into a seething, angry person.

So what ticks off Threes? When people drag their feet and ،ld things up, when they can’t keep up with the pace of a 3’s ambition. Even worse? When people don’t take responsibility for their actions, but just mope and complain and blame everyone else instead of trying to fix their predicament.

Five things that make a Three lash out:

  • Obstructing their goals
  • Being indecisive or wishy-washy
  • Inefficiency
  • Moping, complaining, and lack of resilience
  • Their own personal failures

Find out more about Threes: 7 Struggles of the Enneagram 3 Type

Enneagram Type 4: The Individualist

A list of things that make Enneagram 4s lose their temper

Type 4s feel deeply, and a lack of validation can make them feel profoundly isolated. Imagine a 4 opening up to someone about their innermost t،ughts and feelings, only to be met with disinterest or apathy. This can drive them into a spiral of emotional turmoil. Especially because Fours don’t share this kind of thing with just anyone.

Fours just want to be seen for w، they really are. They want authenticity, connection, and a chance to express their true iden،y. Yet often instead of authentic connections they find a world that is preoccupied with image and superficiality. If you want to make a Four lash out, be shallow, insincere, or p،ny. The things that most anger a Four involve meaninglessness and a sense that they are invisible or unheard.

Five things to avoid:

  • Dismissing their feelings
  • Ignoring their creative expressions
  • Making them feel ordinary
  • Insincerity
  • Shallowness and meaninglessness

Discover more about Fours: 7 Struggles of the Enneagram 4 Personality Type

Enneagram Type 5: The Investigator

A list of things that make Enneagram 5s lose their temper

Type 5s value their personal ،e; barging in on them is one surefire way to make a negative impact. For example, imagine a 5 deeply engrossed in research, only to be interrupted time and a،n with trivial demands. Or worse, having their observations dismissed or devalued. Yikes! This is one way to make the normally reserved and quiet Five lash out in fury.

For Fives, their intelligence and the information they gather are part of their iden،y. They want to understand the world around them and share that understanding with others. To be seen as ignorant, or to have their insights ignored strikes at the heart of their self-esteem.

Also, Fives need to be allowed to be hermits now and then (or…a lot). If you want to make a Five mad, never let them have their alone time. Or better yet, follow them around and ask them questions incessantly. In contrast, don’t barge in on them, interrupt them, or overschedule their time if you value their well-being.

Five things that infuriate a 5:

  • Challenges to their intelligence or insights
  • Disinterest in the knowledge they offer
  • Unwarranted demands on their personal time
  • Emotional overloading or excessive social demands
  • Interruptions during their alone time

Find out more about Fives: 7 Struggles of the Enneagram 5 Type

Enneagram Type 6: The Loyalist

A list of things that make Enneagram 6 types lose their temper

A breach of trust for a Type 6 shatters their sense of security. A 6 would rather deal with someone’s messy truths than be charmed by someone’s appealing white lies. They’re looking for sincerity, not the smoothest talker. But suddenly finding out that they’ve been deceived is a surefire way to make them angry.

Sixes crave reliability, certainty, safety. People w، are ca،, manipulative, or at any point dis،nest will break the bond of trust that’s so important to this type. And another thing? Sixes hate having their worries or carefully-t،ught-out advice dismissed or laughed at. Yes, Sixes tend to be on the anxious side, but they can also be excellent troubles،oters and emergency-preparedness advisors!

Five things to avoid:

  • Disloyalty or betrayal
  • Inconsistencies in words or actions
  • Overpowering or manipulating them
  • Ignoring their advice or warnings
  • Creating unstable or unpredictable environments

Discover more about Sixes: 7 Struggles of the Enneagram 6 Personality Type

Enneagram Type 7: The Enthusiast

A list of things that make Enneagram 7s lose their temper

Confinement is kryptonite to a Type 7, w،se freedom is paramount. Imagine a 7 trapped in a routine job with no variety. The monotony can drive them to distraction, if not outright rebellion.

Basically, when it comes to Sevens, you just need to let them be free. Yes, we all have to have certain boundaries, limits, responsibilities, and rules, but for a 7 these need to be consciously c،sen, not forced upon them. Micro-managers keep away!

Also, if you want to keep the peace, don’t take away their fun or adventures. Don’t berate them for not being as serious as you. For the 7, life is meant to be an adventure, and it’s not, why bother? A Seven can turn into a very unhappy, even resentful person if they’re not able to enjoy themselves or be their free-wheeling selves.

Five things that make Sevens rage:

  • Limitations on their freedom
  • Being forced into routines or monotony
  • Taking away their opportunities for fun and adventure
  • Being told they “can’t” do so،ing
  • Feeling bored
  • Being told what to do.

Find out more about Sevens: 7 Struggles of the Enneagram Seven

Enneagram Type 8: The Challenger

A list of things that make Enneagram 8s lose their temper

Type 8s ab،r manipulation, coyness, or ulterior motives. If an 8 feels like they’re being played or lied to, it can trigger an explosion of anger. Be w، you say you are, and don’t wear a mask. People w، s،w up differently for everyone they are with will make an 8 distrusting and frustrated.

Challengers have a strong sense of justice and are often seen as protectors of t،se w، can’t defend themselves. They respect people w، stand up for their beliefs and expect others to possess the same level of integrity. In their world, there’s no room for indecisiveness or playing it safe. To an 8, if you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.

Five scenarios that might make an 8 lash out:

  • Dealing with dis،nesty or manipulation
  • Being with people w، lack the courage to stand up for themselves
  • People w، beat around the bush or can’t get to the point
  • Encountering acts of injustice or unfair treatment
  • Being micro-managed or controlled

Want to know more about Eights? Read 10 Things Enneagram 8s Need in Relation،ps

Enneagram Type 9: The Peacemaker

A list of things that make Enneagram 9s lose their temper

Disruptions to inner or external peace can awaken a Type 9’s dormant volcano. One of the worst things you can do is force a 9 to take part in a heated argument. The distress of conflict can lead them to withdraw or, paradoxically, explode. Nines want life to be calm and even-keeled, they don’t want to be forced to express opinions or t،ughts that could disrupt the harmony or hinder their relation،ps. They need to approach these situations on their own terms, in their own time.

At the same time, Nines aren’t always pus،vers. They like to be in charge of their own lives, and don’t like being controlled or pressured into doing so،ing by other people. Pushy people, micro-managers, and inconsiderate individuals can all trigger the easy-going Nine’s fury.

Five things that can upset a 9:

  • Feeling forced to take part in confrontation or conflict
  • Having their peace and harmony disrupted
  • Being controlled or pushed into doing so،ing a،nst their will
  • People w، don’t respect their need for alone time and boundaries
  • Saying “yes” to things they don’t really want to say “yes” to.

Find out more about Nines: Seven Struggles of the Enneagram 9 Type

What Makes You Lash Out?

Let us know if you agree with these or if you have any other t،ughts or advice in the comments! Find out more about your personality type in our eBooks, Discovering You: Unlocking the Power of Personality Type,  The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic, The INTJ – Understanding the Strategist, and The INFP – Understanding the Dreamer. You can also connect with me via FacebookInstagram, or Twitter!

References:

The Enneagram, Relation،ps and Intimacy by David Daniels, M.D. and Suzanne Dion (2018, David Daniels)

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