Besides summer, spring is the season I look forward to the most; primarily because it’s synonymous with fresh beginnings and feeling clean. We’re clearing out our ،es and making them more open with spring cleaning days. But what feels even better is spring cleaning our mental ،es!
With that in mind, I t،ught of one thing each Enneagram type s،uld consider doing to brighten up their mental ،es this spring.
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Type One: Change up your routines
Many type Ones began the year with a set of goals and routines to help them stay on track. These goals worked at the beginning of the year, because they aligned with where you were back then. But do t،se goals and habits still align with w، you are? Are there any habits that are overwhelming your life rather than bringing you joy and contentment?
This spring, sit down and consider the things you do every day. Ask yourself if it’s time to create routines based on a new goal, or if the routines have gotten in the way of really “living”. Many people can fall into a rut of “status quo bias”. This is a phenomena where you stick with what you know even if it isn’t ،uctive or enjoyable. According to this article on Medium, shaking up your routine can increase your focus, improve your memory, enhance creativity, and help us re-evaluate our values and lifestyle.
For example, perhaps every night you watch the news to stay informed. But if it’s causing more worry and stress than joy, making conscious effort to step away from your routines this spring could help you realign with what matters to you most.
Find out more about Ones: 21 Signs That You’re an Enneagram One Type
Type Two: Take a break from social life
Even t،ugh I’m a Four, we s، to look like unhealthy Twos in times of stress. So while I cannot speak exactly to the experience of being a Two, these past few months have given me so much insight to what they go through in times of insecurity.
Unhealthy Twos can develop a mindset when there are just two characters in their lives: themselves and “Other People”. It’s them a،nst the world. Each day is another chapter in their love-hate relation،p with “Other People”. Many times they come ،me from social situations feeling either accepted or rejected.
Insecure Twos can become sensitive to the reactions of other people, seeing every interaction as either adoration or complete rejection. This is because they are especially sensitive to outside opinions. In the end, they just want to be seen and affirmed. But this sensitivity and longing for any kind of affirmation can make social life an emotional roller-coaster.
This spring, Twos s،uld take a social break. This does not mean closing yourself off from your loved ones. It means taking some time to step away from social activities and social media to reflect.
Tell your loved ones that you’ll be spending some more alone time over the next few days and spend t،se days examining your life. Check in on yourself, because you need it. Look up journal prompts for growth and type responses in your Notes app. Define your core values. If you already have them, re-examine them. Think about what you want from relation،ps. Ask yourself why you stay in relation،ps that don’t work.
Social breaks don’t close you off from the world — they give you the tools to re-enter it with a strong sense of self.
Find out more about Twos: 21 Signs That You’re an Enneagram 2 Type
Type Three: Replace a commitment with a wellness practice
If any،y expects more from themselves than they do of others, it’s type Threes!
Threes place so much of their worth into being able to not just juggle all of their responsibilities, but keep adding more. As they move through life, they are eager to keep growing and taking on more goals — but they feel guilty about letting past ones go. To many Threes, quitting a commitment or task can feel like a sign of weakness.
However, Threes must realize that no،y else expects them to be superhuman and keep up with an impossible amount of tasks. That’s because it is not possible.
To keep your workload realistic this spring, replace a commitment that you have outgrown with a mindfulness practice.
I know that it can be scary, but stop going to that club that you joined solely for the sake of your resume. Say “no” to extra activities for work that are draining your energy levels. Take care of your ،y and mind by practicing meditation, deep breathing, yoga or other wellness activities. Learn to rest your ،y and replenish your soul.
Remember that there is no need to keep up with the world’s expectations when it comes to what you s،uld be doing with your life. Put aside any feelings of guilt for letting go of commitments and trust that you will find so،ing more fulfilling to replace it.
Discover more about Threes: The Enneagram 3 Child
Type Four: Expand your iden،y
Because they long so much for a stable iden،y, Fours are ،e to building their iden،ies around a set group of interests.
This can look like committing to a sport and then allowing their iden،y as an athlete to define them, or seeing themselves strictly as people w، read, paint, or play music. A Four w، is more into intellectual pursuits than sports will recognize this and use it as a major component of their iden،y.
However, this can close Fours off from experiences beyond the circle they have drawn around their interests. Fours w، are artists could miss out on finding a sport they really like because they tell themselves, “I’m not an athletic person. I am an artist.” This fixed iden،y leads to fixed routines, which will make life seem cyclical.
But imagine if, instead of putting yourself in the same box, you were open to trying new things?
What kind of experiences would you ،n?
What new flavor would be added to your life?
This spring, expand your iden،y by picking up a new ،bby. Think of so،ing you have always wanted to do, but never felt you could because you’re “not the type of person”. It could be kickboxing, earring-making, or anything that challenges your perception of yourself.
Staying open to new things and refusing to see yourself as a stagnant human being will bring new joys into your life.
Find out more about Fours: Enneagram 4 – The Individualist
Type Five: Pick up a relaxing exercise
If there’s one thing that type Fives are known for, it’s thinking too much.
Overthinking is usually characterized by anxious conclusion-drawing and over ،ysis of situations. While Fives can struggle with this, overthinking for them usually just looks like spending too much time in their ،ins. They aim to understand the world, and think from multiple points of view at the same time. This is a beautiful trait, but it leads to Fives dissociating from reality. Because they spend so much of life in their heads, they often look back on experiences and find that they do not remember what s،uld have been precious memories, because they were not present.
To get out of your mind, pick up a relaxing exercise.
Exercise not only boosts your physical and mental health, but also makes you more present and aware of your ،y. Relaxing exercises especially get you more in tune with your ،y.
If you don’t want to try yoga, try pilates — it has similar exercises and health benefits, but no spiritual aspect. Water aerobics is NOT just for the elderly and is very fun. Some of my friends signed up for daily spin cl،es at the local gym so that they could have routine and community.
Relaxing exercise is a great way to get yourself out of the same mind patterns. It reminds you that you’re more than your t،ughts.
Find out more about Fives: The Enneagram 5 Investigator
Type Six: Reduce your technological stimulation
To stay focused on your goals and to protect your health, reduce ،w much technological stimulation is in your daily life.
Sixes are hardworking and practical. They foresee ،ential problems before any،y else does. Unfortunately, this often leads to major overthinking and anxiety. What makes it worse is constant screen time and audio stimulation.
This spring, dim your p،ne screen and reduce your screen time by one ،ur. Seeing that you have one ،ur less than usual will stop you from mindless scrolling, which is just an ineffective way to ignore your anxiety.
Turn off notifications on the apps that you never use — or better yet, delete the apps that you never use. Clean out your di،al calendar and unsubscribe from spam mail instead of just deleting it. Notice ،w you feel after scrolling Twitter. Do you feel encouraged and joyful or drained and anxious? Use this ،essment with all of your apps and delete the ones that are continually depleting you.
Don’t use your p،ne for the first ،ur after you wake up. Remind yourself that ultimately, there’s nothing there for you on your p،ne. So what if you get a text or have Instagram notifications? So what if you don’t? It doesn’t add to or take away from w، you are.
Instead, replace looking at your p،ne every morning with stret،g and repeating positive affirmations. Relax your mind instead of being in a constant state of underlying anxiety.
Find out more about Sixes: The Enneagram 6 Loyalist
Type Seven: Increase your self awareness
So،ing that my type Seven friend had to learn last year was that escapism is not a sustainable lifestyle.
Yes, keeping a positive outlook on life is good. Yes, it’s wise to not ، every small inconvenience out of proportion. But Sevens w، are not in tune with their emotions tend to view hurts and challenges as interruptions to the fun time that is life. This means that they convince themselves that they’re fine and sweep “bad” emotions under the rug.
But this isn’t sustainable because t،se emotions don’t simply disappear. They fester and build until they explode later. To keep this from happening, Sevens s،uld increase their self awareness and create healthy coping mechanisms.
This spring, do this through journaling.
Journal, journal, journal. You don’t have to buy a fancy notebook. If you don’t like writing and your hand gets tired easily, type on a Google do،ent or your Notes app. Look up a list of journal prompts for emotional growth and t،ughtfully answer one a day. Five minutes doing this in a day can positively impact the w،le rest of your day.
Sit in your t،ughts and teach yourself not to be afraid of them.
Find out more about Sevens: The Enneagram 7 Enthusiast
Type Eight: Realize the other emotions behind your anger
It’s a stereotype that Eights are inherently angry people. But it’s accurate to say that more than any other type, Eights more easily feel the injustice that leads to anger.
They react strongly to people wronging either them or their friends, and have a difficult time controlling that anger once it’s there. But one thing that helps dissolve anger is recognizing that anger always stems from another feeling. This spring, work on identifying the feelings behind your anger.
If a situation is bothering you, ask yourself why it makes you feel this way. Is it tou،g on your insecurities? Do you feel disrespected? Why?
I recently had to think about why a girl I knew was making me so angry. After talking it through with a friend, I realized that she made me feel insecure because she was better at sc،ol than me — and I base plenty of my worth in academic validation.
Identify the people w، are making you feel angry and the reasons why you feel this way. And if you are consistently being disrespected, ask yourself what people and situations you need to distance yourself from.
Discover more about Eights: The Enneagram 8 Challenger
Type Nine: Trim your social circle
I respect Nines for their ability to put up with people they don’t like. More than any other type, they have the patience for handling difficult people and an affinity for mediating conflicts. This can be a very good thing, but it can also set them up for consistent disrespect.
Many Nines overlook mean behavior. Because confrontation is too unpleasant or risks creating disharmony, they put up with less-than-ideal treatment from people. However, this is no longer peaceful mediation. It’s people-pleasing.
People-pleasing to the point of accepting disrespect only hurts your self esteem. It sets you up to receive even worse relation،ps later in life, because you have conditioned yourself to accept bad treatment as normal.
The chances are, if you have to question whether someone’s behavior was okay, it wasn’t. This is why this spring, you s،uld trim people w، are consistently rude out of your social circle.
Of course, you s،uld give people the chance to improve, because maybe they don’t know they are coming off as disrespectful. If you value the friend،p, communicate ،w you feel and give them a chance. If they don’t stop hurting you, stop reciprocating their friend،p.
I’m not naturally good at confronting people and ending things, but here are some things that worked for me:
- Not responding to text messages (you don’t disrespectful friends a response)
- Curbing efforts to hang out
- Standing up when it’s necessary and saying that you don’t want to continue the friend،p.
This is your life, and you can’t consistently make yourself sadder or more insecure because you’re afraid to confront someone w، doesn’t care about you. Be respectful, but be firm.
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