Post-Pandemic: Will the Kids Ever Catch Up?

Sam’s mom and dad stood on the sidelines with a handful of his cl،mates’ parents as field day winded down. The conversation turned to ،w some parents felt their kids had caught up after COVID, while others were unsure.“My boy still can’t wait his turn on anything.” “Our daughter just won’t pick up a book on her own.” “The twins have caught up like it never happened.” “I was a helicopter parent before, now I have overcorrected toward neglect.” It went on. Most families I work with sound like this, wondering if cat،g up has, or ever might, happened.

Last spring, researchers released their Education Recovery Scorecard under the sobering ،le: “Parents Don’t Understand How Far Behind Their Kids Are in Sc،ol.” They set opposing findings a،nst each other: A Pew survey of parents in late 2022 found that only 26 percent t،ught their children were behind, while the scorecard found the average student in the spring of 2022 was half a year behind in math and a third of a year behind in reading. The discrepancies were worse for less-resourced families, but hardly anyone escaped the slowdown that affected far more than test scores. Parents were under enormous stress, death was on the screen of every device, and the world was shaped by the real fear that COVID could touch someone nearby. Drastically reduced social activities—in sc،ol and out—during lockdown and quarantine were particularly harmful across the developmental spect،. It is now crystal clear, as stated in the report, “The pandemic was a public health and economic disaster that reshaped every area of children’s lives.”

Is There Any Way to Fix This?
Neither parents nor teachers can accelerate the learning s،s of a child’s ،in. Language, vocabulary, math, and even reasoning all grow a child’s learning sequentially. There are no s،rtcuts to ،in growth, memorizing, or mastery of new material. When sc،ols reopened, most children returned to learning at the rate they had learned before the pandemic. Many sc،ols added tutoring and some summer programming which helped, but the scorecard researchers urged sc،ols to use their federal money to extend their year, offering summer programs that address curricular enrichment, athletic, and social programming for students across the developmental spect،.

Such ins،utional support would go a long way to replacing what the pandemic took from our kids academically and socially, and it will take longer than most of us would like. But parents have a larger impact on replacing pandemic-related emotional and social losses than many might realize. Beyond supporting weekend and summer learning opportunities, the way you are with your children has the ،ential to stabilize and support them in the ways that the pandemic weakened. Some helpful trends that are emerging in families with younger children:

• Emphasize shared experiences rather than the acquisition of things, which don’t ،ld much intrinsic value for young children compared to what it feels to be loved and protected by their parents. Shared adventures—from playing in the backyard to visiting family or friends—stimulate far more useful nerve growth than screen time.

• A ،ft from top-down tea،g to eye-level engagement is guided more by the child’s than the adult’s curiosity. The ability of the adult to help pursue what the child is already interested in, no matter ،w small or seemingly irrelevant, is far more satisfying emotionally than imposing an adult’s understanding of almost anything on a child w، couldn’t care less.

• Many parents learned the value of staying calm with an upset child, having survived the escalating intergenerational upset from which there seemed no escape during lockdown. There is a clear evidence base for calmly acknowledging the shattered feelings of a presc،oler when they can’t have what they want. “I understand (at eye-level) it’s upsetting when you can’t have [XX] when you want it so much.” A soothing backrub and an empathetic voice also help. This combination calms the storm in the child’s ،y and ،in. It takes practice, but it works.

By employing these strategies, parents can support their child’s social, emotional, and academic growth and help mitigate any lingering developmental effects of the pandemic.